Sharing about a recent session that was amazingly memorable, even unique for a first time sensual massage.

Not surprisingly, with first timers, sometimes it feels like I'm massaging a log 😅 - because we tense up when there's some anxiety, even fear, in totally new situations. And that's ok, it's natural too. How I address such fear is to acknowledge it (NOT ignore it) and together, slowly work our way through it - replacing fear with comfort, acceptance and warmth.

Of course, I always exhort that responding and removing barriers will help us to get the most out of sessions - because it can feed a virtuous cycle of increasing intensity and passion between giver and receiver.

Usually though, it's hard to truly and fully unlock this in a first session, simply because it takes a while to build connection.

My session with the lovely @EMJean-Grey was one particularly amazing and memorable experience however, simply because we managed to unlock this elusive responsiveness to a degree that I had never seen before. To @EMJean-Grey's credit, a large part of this is because of her very orgasmic nature and her amazing body sensitivity that's uncommon and beautiful to behold!

In Fet, we tend to get attracted to the flashier, more extreme writings, experiences, pictures and videos. After all, it's no surprise that we're drawn to the highs in all aspects of life.

I'd like to take a step back, however, and share my thoughts about this. Can, or should every session be a high?

Firstly, I think sessions should not be evaluated primarily as one-off or on their own. Rather, each experience is a continuation of interactions made and built over time. Our recent sessions give an overall tenor to the connection we share and are like individual notes in a musical phrase - together, they convey so much more meaning and beauty than on their own.

Sharing thoughts here about how my approach towards giving sensual massage (and sensual dominance sessions) has changed over time. I've always wanted to give nothing but the very best experiences possible, and looking back, one thing stands out for having the greatest impact on session outcomes.

What is this secret sauce? Read on...

I recently had a session with a good friend X (you know who you are) 😜. As usual, we had an amazing time and I felt like sharing this experience with you, dear reader - perhaps inspiring more exploration and stories soon!

If you're inspired to try this out and want to share your experience, a link back here would be much appreciated.

Suggestions and ideas on expanding this are very welcome, I welcome all feedback :)

The theme for this session was sensual taste (here's my previous article on an earlier session), how it would be carried out was left to my own machinations 😈...

My thoughts about exploring taste have always been about depriving our other senses - so that whatever remains, is more vivid, intense and memorable. In this session I took this idea one step further...

For the longest time, I've lived my life as close to the principles of being 'true to myself' as I could. As with many things in life, however, it's easy to say, but hard to do. Still, I keep trying.

Being 'true to yourself' for me, is twofold:

1. Understanding who we really are, deep inside.

2. Having the courage to accept ourselves as we are and living our life congruent to that.

I believe that the closer we come to living authentically, the greater our chance at finding peace and a deep sense of joy.

This doesn't have to be specific to kink. However, kink tends to be particularly relevant, because of its largely taboo status. Many of us have learned to suppress it, and pretend that it doesn't exist inside. But yet it does.

Freedom to be ourselves can be pretty addictive and exhilarating, a deep sense of being exactly where we should belong, a sense that all is right.

Sometimes, I wonder, what are sessions/scenes for?

Is there any point beyond pure momentary pleasure, a flash in the pan that lasts for a moment and is forgotten over time? (Not that there's anything wrong with that - the hedonist in me loves giving and receiving pleasure just because - no other reasons required!)

For me, I've found a personal preference for sessions to have some aspects of meaning and purpose. A change in mindset; Healing of our whole person; A newfound freedom of expression; Acceptance of our true nature; A deeper connection - these and more transform a great session into a transcendent one.

While perhaps not exactly on a transcendent level, I've had a pretty darn close one recently with @facetsoflife - a session filled with meaning, healing, mindset changes and more.

I'm getting to be a fan of 360 degree session notes - they help bring added clarity to the dynamics of a session. Usually, this happens by providing additional details on the thought processes of parties involved, thus, deepening understanding and communication. Reliving the experience also helps us to glean additional insights that we might have initially missed out.

Recounting an amazing session with @OatMilk_ - her take on the session can be found here!

Earlier in the weeks before this, I had tasked O to complete something for me, and she had done well, so that set the context for this session - one that was a reward for her being a good girl and slut. O had gone out of her way to accomplish that task and I was well pleased with the results.

In my pursuit of hedonism and sensuality, my singlemindedness has led to some pretty extreme attempts to incorporate all 5 of our senses: sight, sound, smell, touch AND taste into one symphonic whole.

Usually, my passion for giving sensual massage only covers 4 of our senses: sight, sound, smell and touch. TASTE being the obvious and glaring missing piece of the puzzle.

My original source of inspiration in covering this last sense, was first sparked by an earlier session with my wonderful muse @supermuse and brought to fruition in a subsequent session with @LanguidCass - here's her take on the experience.

Here's my side of the story and the planning involved in making a session like this a reality. I also posted this to share that it's a team effort and the final success of the session depended on multiple people's input, time and effort, all of which I greatly appreciated. Shoutout to @OfficialPothosd @thLemonLime and a bartender friend (not on Fet) that all contributed to it's success.

Recently, I had a successful sensual domination session with someone totally new to kink. This is my story of that experience and her perspective of this session is shown in the screenshot shared towards the end of this article (reproduced with her permission).

I was contacted by S, a new, pretty inexperienced but enthusiastic sounding lady that wanted to explore elements of bondage and soft domination.

An existing client, we've had a sensual massage session before, but this time, S requested to be tied up and to explore being bound as part of her personal journey in kink.